Saturday in my House

I’ve been away for one thing or another for about a week now: busy work, busy play, busy times. While I’ve been gone, roofers have been redoing its top hat.

(Yes, they are hard to find, these illusive roofers. We’ve had three drive-bys in the street stop and ask for their card.)

Today through Monday I am at home, and my house is getting a seeing to inside as well as out.

It’s interesting, the relationship women have been taught to have with our houses. They are reflections of us (we are told) so they better be clean. Is clean more important than cozy? Depends, I suppose, on how you were raised and how far you rebelled.

A Room of One’s Own is a famous essay for women writers in particular. A lot of words boil down to “Do you have space?” Mental space as well as physical. Do you look around and see a place to be while you make art, or do you see a space demanding attention from you?

My house is a sanctuary, for Jack and me, for cats. It’s our space, and during COVID that was true in a strange new way. We’re hospitable, party-oriented creatures, and we enjoy filling the place with friends. During COVID it filled with anxiety, hope, and a whole lot of writing. Two books got written and out the door.

But now, with this chance to please just get a little scrubbing done, I find myself happy. Not as an excuse to procrastinate about writing (Lord knows we’ve all played that game at some point) but about the time to settle in, streamline a couple of spaces for more efficient and pleasant use, reinvent the corners that confine the box in which we play.

So, herewith my random thoughts on one of life’s more mundane chores, one that more often than not keeps women from fulfilling their artmaking. But these next three days, before I get back to writing in all its day job, weekend word warrior, side gig, and fulfillment glory, these next three days feel as full of promise as a blank page.

Let the cleaning commence.

In ‘A Room of One’s Own,’ Woolf noted that women need money, and their own room, to have the freedom to write and create, and that often they had neither.
ILLUSTRATION: JANE MOUNT

The Hearing is Hereby Opened – or Maybe Not – #2

Jack makes it on time again – maybe Wendy will be back soon – –

The continuing story of my hearing problem. Following the diagnosis that the loss in my right ear was permanent I learned to position myself so that my good left ear was always in the best place. So, when playing and or singing I always made sure anyone else was to my left. In restaurants or in company at home I also always made sure of that too.

Then my old singing buddy Barbara, on a visit, explained how she had a hearing aid and I should get one. So off I went to the local audiologist and dropped a lump of money for a matching pair (it seemed I couldn’t get just one!). The right one didn’t seem much help but together they definitely did.

I went back to the audiologist every few months to get checked and have the aids cleaned. Then my left ear went deaf again! It was impacted wax so – off to a specialist with tweezers this time and another bill!

Then during the pandemic and lock down I didn’t have much need for the technology so didn’t use them for nearly three years. No gigs, no socializing and not much meeting up.
But a few weeks ago we did have a gig – a house concert. So I gave the aids a good clean, fitted new batteries and new filters. Off we went and in the morning ahead of the evening concert I put them in. An hour later I went completely deaf in my left ear. I seems that when I put the left one in I pushed wax down against the ear drum! The rest of the day was spent lying on my side with peroxide and ear drops alternating with warm water syringing until finally I got some hearing back.

The following day we drove back home and my hearing was going in and out all the way, but, on getting home I gave the ear another syringe and it’s been perfect ever since.
I wonder if anyone else has experienced similar – ring any bells?